“That’s what happens when you feel depressed: Human beings are able to survive almost anything, providing that they can see the end of their suffering. But the insidiousness of depression that becomes worse and worse every day prevents you to ever see the end. It’s like a fog and you feel as if you are in a cage without a key.” – Elizabeth Wurtzel
Depression is almost impossible to be dealt with without professional help. That’s why it’s crucial for all the people to seek out other people that can help them deal with the everyday feelings that appear as a result of depression.
If you’ve never suffered from depression, you probably don’t know what you should do to help someone with depression, and how to show them that they matter and that they are loved and supported. If you know a person who suffers from depression and you really want to help them, read the following advices of what’s the best ways to do that.
READ THE FOLLOWING TRICKS THAT CAN HELP A DEPRESSED PERSON FEEL HAPPY AND HONORED AGAIN
DON’T ACT LIKE IT DOESN’T EXIST
Depression can be a serious problem, and just acting as if nothing is wrong isn’t going to make it disappear. You may believe that pretending as if everything is normal is the right thing to do, but this can lead the depressed person to a wrong conclusion that their feelings don’t matter. Be honest with them and tell them what they are going through, and how dangerous it can be for them.
DON’T TRY TO FIX THEM
You have to realize that the person who is suffering from depression is not broken. But, they are just facing with a common, but dangerous, mental illness that has to be treated by professionals.
If you want your friend or family member to get better, he needs to visit a doctor or a therapist. Depression is considered to be a medical illness just like diabetes is. Would you try to cure someone who is suffering from diabetes on your own? No. So you shouldn’t try curing depression too.
BE CAREFUL WITH THE POSITIVITY
It’s very important to be there for your friend or your family member when they need you and to fill them with positive energy. But, you shouldn’t be too positive. This may worsen their situation because they would feel as if they are not able to feel as positive as you are. In fact, everything which is overreacted is extremely annoying! So be positive, but make it look natural.
LET THEM EXPRESS THEIR FEELINGS
If your friend starts to express their negative and self-deprecating thoughts, don’t try to stop them. Listen to them attentively and don’t interrupt them only because you have something clever to say.And also if they want to remain quiet, don’t force them into talking. You just have to make it clear that you are there for them and they can say anything that they want but only when they want to do that.
THEIR FEELINGS ARE IMPORTANT
Everyone deserves value and respect. Make clear that you totally understand why they feel that way. This is very important for them because otherwise they would feel guilty about their bad feelings and emotions. Even if they have some feelings that don’t make any sense, you should still try to validate them. This will help them easily deal with them.
A friend or family member who feels depressed may not be able to ask for help when they need it. So, you have to make sure that you show your support whenever they need it.
Usually depressed people tend to pull away the people around them. Remember that you don’t have to feel the same way they feel in order to talk to them. You can reach them out and offer incredible help. However, you shouldn’t force your support but offer it when they need it the most.
Most of the people who suffer from depression just want to stay in bed and don’t leave the house at all. Invite your friend to go out with you, initiate meetings and don’t let them stay in their house all the time. If you call them to go out with you, it will be easier for them to get out. Knowing that you still want to hang out with them despite their depression will make them feel good.
Before you decide to help your friend with their depression, you have to make sure that you take care of you first. Don’t get overworked and try to set some boundaries at the beginning. If you don’t stick to the boundaries you’ve set and overwhelm yourself by helping your friend, you will do more harm than good.
Helping a person who suffers from depression is not an easy task. It’s very important to do something you like, go out with other people, enjoy in the time you’ve set aside only for you. Some people say that they feel guilty if they go out without the friend they are helping. But if you don’t make some balance between the time spent with the depressed person and the time set for yourself, you can have a lot of consequences both physical and mental as well.
Thus, in order to be able to keep helping your friend when they need it, first of all you have to learn how to take care of yourself.
Many people are affected by depression and it’s a serious thing. Maybe you don’t know how it feels like, but you probably have friends or family members who do. If some of your friends or family members suffer from depression, it’s very important both for you and for them to learn how you can help them. Remember that you should never stop respecting and honoring them as persons. You probably won’t be able to cure their depression, but you will be able to offer your help and support when they need it the most.