Psychologists have long talked about the fact that the quarter life crisis that appears in life is not a problem, but a stage of personal development, a moment when it is necessary to turn the page and start living in a different way.
But that does not mean that the signs of crisis are depression and sadness and they are not always negative.
The crisis may arise as a result of a change in your living conditions, or critical moments such as finishing college, starting a new job, marriage, giving birth, moving in or retirement.
All these changes are accompanied by some difficulties and this creates tension. But when you notice that you are in that period, it means that you need to change something so that you can achieve personal development.
Sometimes, you may not be aware of it, so read the following signs:
You sleep more or less than before
The crisis always causes stress, and it can also affect your sleep. Sometimes, you are not able to wake up in the morning, or you stay awake all night.
You compare yourself with other people
Your life is probably not that bad, but when you pass through a crisis, you are more vulnerable and you feel as you are not good enough or as if you haven’t done enough. So you might start comparing yourself with other successful individuals or with someone who lives a seemingly better life than you.
It’s hard for you to focus
Concentration will work well only if a person is relaxed and confident.
If you are constantly struggling with unnecessary feelings, your job becomes much more difficult, the concentration falls, and everything that has been interesting and exciting for you becomes dull and boring.
You want to leave everything and go somewhere far away
Major changes in life that result in difficult decisions, obstacles and stress, most often affect us negatively and at some point in the crisis, we want to leave everything and get away from reality.
Your mood changes dramatically and quickly
During a crisis, the function of the nervous system and the hormones changes. This affects our mood which is constantly changing too.
You buy clothes much more often than before
In the moments of crisis, people often want to satisfy themselves with something that makes them forget about the reality, so that they can feel happy and satisfied at least for a while.
You do not want to cook
Remember those days when you enjoyed cooking and you used to be so good at it? Now you feel some revolt and you really don’t want to share the food with anyone.
You are often nostalgic
When you feel sad, thinking about the past can have a negative effect on you, because you tend to overestimate it, and you think that it was much better than it really was.
You do not make early plans for your vacation anymore
In the past you used to plan everything about your next vacation 6 months before you even go there. You used to search for places and accommodations and you really enjoyed it. Now you’ve simply lost that desire and you are not planning anything.
A dramatic change in appetite
Nervousness and stress are closely related to appetite. Depending on the person, some will eat as much as possible to bury the problem, while others may even skip a few meals.
You do not dream and fantasize anymore
Everyone has some fantasies and dreams that they hope to come true. But, when someone experiences crisis in their life, fantasizing or daydreaming is no longer on their “to do” lists. They feel that it’s pointless to dream of something that will never come true.
You stick to old friends
In a period of crisis, you will notice that some friends who were there only when they needed something from you are slowly disappearing and this is normal.
It is not normal if you have an obsessive desire to hang out only with your old friends and if you constantly avoid making new friends.
You delay your obligations
If you are going through a period of crisis you will notice that you slowly start to cancel or skip any additional activities.
Sometimes you even think of some lame excuses just to stay at home.
You are aware that this is wrong and you feel bad about it, but you think that you cannot change anything. This means that the crisis is already in a progressive stage and it has overwhelmed you.
You apologize for everything
Your self-esteem is at a low level during a crisis. For that reason the attacks of shyness and insecurity are very common, so you tend to apologize even when you haven’t done anything wrong.
You are afraid
You are not sure what you should do next and what your future will look like. This scares you and makes you think only about the worst scenarios of any given situation.
You do not trust anyone’s support
Everyone worries about something and it’s completely normal. But that does not mean that nobody needs to help you when you feel down.
During a crisis, it is difficult for you to approach the situation and understand who you can trust and ask for help.
How to overcome the crisis?
First of all, take your time to see where you are right now and where you really want to be. Take several free days, turn off your phone, think and decide what’s important and valuable to you.
Accept yourself and your goals that you’ve set for that period. And ACTION!
The main rule for overcoming any crises in life is not to hide, but to fight and solve any problems, no matter how hard it might be.